Narcissists Among Us

Up until this past week, I don’t think have used the word Narcissism more than a handful of times. Of course I knew what it meant (kinda) but it is just never entered my vernacular.  Calling someone a Narcissist wasn’t nice, especially a child. It was something you would call an arrogant, self serving adult in the heat of an argument. In the past week however, I have begun to change my view of Narcissism along with my understanding of who can be a Narcissist.

When I picked up “The Narcissist Epidemic” at Indigo last weekend, I started reading through the Forward and then I discovered that there was a Chapter on Parenting and I was instantly sold. Yet even more information to bolster my online avocation of Old School Parenting.

Essentially what this book is suggesting is that societies focus on self esteem building over the past 20 years has over shot the mark a tad and has created a generation of Narcissists. A group of young people whose main focus is themselves, bent on serving their wants first and the needs of others a distant second. The “what’s in it for me” generation is now taking center stage and its somewhat disconcerting.

As much as I would like to disagree with the authors’ premise that we are raising Narcissists, I can’t. Certainly one has to be careful not to make sweeping generalizations when describing an entire generation (There are good hearted kids still out there) but there is a irrefutable thread of truth that runs through this book’s main thesis. We have created a generation of pint sized potentates who are now starting to come of age and expect the same treatment in the real world as they have received from their parents. I have a friend who is a corporate recruiter and runs into this new type of “me focused” job seeker all the time and it is quite astonishing what they expect from an employer.

In a previous post I shared a link to a Fantastic documentary called Hyper Parents & Coddled Children where they discuss societies current parenting style, which is creating this Narcissim epidemic and it is a must watch if you are the least bit interested in this topic.

The good news is that parenting styles can change and Parenting Old School is just the cure.

Further readion on this issue can be found at ERIC, the world’s most important source of academic articles on education issues.

Self-Esteem and Narcissism: Implications for Practice. ERIC Digest

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